mind and tell if he really loves you. He's dated his
fair share of women, and he has always kept his
options open. How will you know if he's made up his
mind that you're the one for him?
1
Listen to how he talks about the future. His
future once meant he had a date on Saturday night,
but with you, he's seeing long-term. When he plans
his next vacation, he finds himself making plans
with you in them, and when his best friend gets
married in six months, you're his date.
2
Note whether he's making room for you in
his life. Other priorities take a back seat to you,
well, because you're more important than them. If
he enjoys fitting you into his busy (or not-so-busy)
life, that means he values your companionship.
For instance, he used to work out religiously, but
lately, when you're free for dinner, he doesn't
mind missing his workout. He's not as worried
about preening as he is missing a romantic
night with you.
Not only that, bringing work home on weekends
seems a bit excessive to him now, and his "to do"
list isn't as important to him as it once was.
He enjoys taking you out with his friends. Be
wary of the guy who never wants you around his
friends, and insists on hanging out alone. He's
either hiding something or he's embarrassed
with you around. The guy who loves having you
around his friends, taking you out, is proud of
who you are and likes showing you off.
3
See if he is softening up when it comes to
you. Instead of insisting on getting his way, he
doesn't mind compromising today. This means he
understands the give-and-take of relationships, and
feels good about giving a little if it means you're
happy or listened to.
He doesn't mind missing a night out with the
guys anymore, because he knows that a night in
will be just as good.
He even doesn't mind going to see that foreign
movie with subtitles that he swears he doesn't
understand. If you it means that you'll be happy,
he'll go out on a limb.
He laughs at the good-natured taunts from his
friends because he knows they secretly wish they
were in his shoes.
4
Note if his spare time is mostly time spent
with you. He looks forward to seeing you, and it
doesn't matter what the two of you do as long as he
gets to spend time with you. When he's with you, he
doesn't need distractions because you're more than
distracting just the way you are.
Those long walks you like so well are okay with
him too. The time flies because you're holding
hands and having a great conversation, and it
doesn't matter that you're not doing anything.
He finds that when he is not with you, he is
thinking about you constantly. When you call
him just to check in, he keeps you on the phone,
telling jokes and engaging in conversation.
He invites you along to activities that he doesn't
normally like doing with someone else. Maybe
he's a bit embarrassed that he's in that ceramics
class, or he's really consumed with cycling. If he
normally enjoys the activity alone, but invites
you, it means he trusts you and wants you to be
involved in the things that really matter to him.
5
Observe what gets his attention. You're not
asking to be the center of his universe — at least not
yet! — but you do want to make sure that his
priorities have shifted, and that those priorities take
you into consideration.
Although he can't help but notice a beautiful
woman sometimes, he's so mesmerized with you
that many of them slip by unnoticed.
He doesn't flirt as much as he used to. What's
the point of flirting with someone else when he
could flirt with you? He is coming to realize that
you're the only woman that really matters to him
and that your feelings matter to him, too.
The things that matter to you start mattering to
him. You've told him you love ballet, and one
night he says that he's thinking about getting
tickets to the ballet. Your priorities become his
because he wants you in his life.
6
Note the sparks. You have great chemistry—you
can't be in love with someone without chemistry.
Chemistry can be as little as the same tendencies or
as big as the same frame of mind. Without
planning it, you two tend to mesh.
He seems to always be on the same wavelength,
finishing your thoughts and your sentences.
And when he does, he looks at you like you two
are the same person with a smile on his face.
His physical attraction to you is undeniable. He
treats you with spontaneous displays of
affection, kissing you on the neck or paying you
a compliment when you least expect it.
7
See yourself through his eyes. He's finding out
more and more that he likes you just the way you
are, and he doesn't stay mad long when you have a
disagreement.
He finds your quirks charming—the fact that you
snort when you start laughing hard, for
example, is unbelievably charming.
He loves that, when you eat, you refuse to allow
any single food item to touch another item on
your plate. He gazes at you adoringly, and
thinks that only you could be so crazy and so
beautiful at the same time.
You say things that make you different from the
others, and this is one of the things that makes
you so attractive to him. He values your opinion
as much as he does your looks.
8
Watch to see if he asks questions about you.
You can tell that he's falling in love with you
because he wants to find out everything about you.
He wants to know where you come from, who
your parents are (a biggie), what you think about
and why, and what makes you laugh. He asks
these questions like he genuinely cares about the
answer, and he remembers your answers, too.
He truly cares about your feelings, and if you've
had a bad day or you're upset about something,
he wants to cheer you up, not because he has to,
but because he genuinely wants you to be happy.
9
Notice whether his thoughts keep coming
back to you. He can't stop thinking about you—he
is consumed by thoughts of you. You pop in his
head for no reason, and he even wonders if you
think of him as much as he does of you.
He wonders what you're doing, and he considers
calling you but doesn't, (he doesn't want to look
too eager).
He talks about you with his friends, his siblings,
and his parents. If he's talking about you with
his mother, especially, it means he's seeking
approval from her.
When he's out with his friends and he spots
something in a shop window that he thinks you
would like, he picks it up for you because he's
thinking about you. He's got it bad for you, and
that's good.
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