The crash of the marriage between Chris & Anita
Oyakhilome has been widely reported after Anita
requested for a divorce.
According to ThisDay, who claimed to have obtained
a copy of Anita's divorce petition, the reverend is
filing for the divorce on the grounds on unresaonable
behaviors on the part oh her husband. Read the
statement below.
"The wife has discussed with the husband his
inappropriate relationship with some of his female
staff members. She has explained that this has given
her cause for concern. The husband has minimised
her worries and taken no step to alleviate her
grievances."
"The wife submits that her marriage to the husband
has irretrievably broken down and there is no hope of
reconciliation. The wife will submit that it is the
husband's unreasonable behaviours which have led
to this.
"The husband and the wife are both Pastors. The
husband undertakes his work, in the main, in South
Africa and Nigeria. The wife lives in the United
Kingdom. The wife will say that they have lived
separately for 16 years and over this time have drifted
apart. The wife has come to realise that the husband
will only visit the UK for annual church programmes
that he holds rather than to be with this wife. The
wife feels that he has been unavailable as a father to
their children during their developing years.
"The wife feels that their marriage suffered under the
pressure of their work. They would rarely spend time
together due to the husband unavailability. Special
occasions such as Christmas, Birthdays and family
occasions and anniversaries past them by and their
rarely spent any time together as a family as the
husband was more devoted to his work than he was
to them.
"The wife feels that she has been used to portray and
enhance the husband's image as a family man when
the reality is that there is no existing relationship
between them. She feels that she has been present for
official functions simply for his convenience. On
occasions she has been copied into his travel
itinerary which has been given to him by his staff on
a need to know basis.
"The wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the
husband. He claims that she is carnal and he is
insensitive to her feelings and her needs."
"As a result of the husband's attitude to their
marriage, the wife will say that he is virtually not
recognised as a married man in the ministry. His
teachings and beliefs on marriage is that the
husband is a master and a controller and the wife
will say that his concept of biblical; submission is so
extreme that it is impossible for her to meet his
expectations. She feels humiliated by the way he
treats her in the presence of his close female staff
members and she feels that she has been taken for
granted which has become unbearably stressful for
her.
"The wife will say that the relationship with the
husband is non-existent to the point that his
itinerary which was announced publicly at the
beginning of the year had no provision for time with
his family. His staff members who travel with him
organise both his personal and professional life
without any input from her. The wife will say that
she is treated with disregard almost like akin to an
intruder.
"The wife feels that she has been mentally, physically
and emotionally deprived of the experience of a
marital relationship. She feels that the husband has
persistently judged her and his communication with
her has been unduly harsh. The wife knows that he
was hard to please and has been extremely critical.
"The wife reserves the right to expand on all of these
particulars if the divorce petition is defended." (59)
Read more at http://www.360nobs.com/2014/09/
read-anita-oyakhilomes-divorce-statement/
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