better to know where you stand, than to lay down for
too long with the wrong guy, right?
1. Weekday lovers
If your guy has a virtual do not disturb sign up sign
up on the weekends, this is a clear sign that he is
reserving weekends for someone else on his literal
to-do list, or keeping his options open to meet other
women. "When a girl is just a girl I'm into for sex,
I'll never ask her out on a weekend. Weekends are
strictly reserved for A-listers and new opportunities."
2. Sporadic contact
A guy who is really into it communicates with you
regularly. A guy who is in it to sex it, calls, texts,
emails and pops-over only when he is feeling frisky
and knows that you will indulge his desires. If the
sight of your man's name on your caller ID surprises
you, chances are, this is a sex only situation.
3. Invitation to nowhere
You never get invited to anything – his friend's
birthday party, his work happy hour, not even a
lackluster dinner and a movie. Bottom line: "Dates"
are always cozy nights in. Why? Because that is the
easiest place to, you guessed it... have sex.
4. Time's up!
You spend just enough time together for a little
foreplay, sex and maybe a nap. Unless there's time
and desire for a round two, a sex-only motivated man
will vanish like a thief in the night before you even
have time to nuzzle into little-spoon position.
5. Late-night lovers
A sure in-it-for-the-sex-only sign is when your man
only reaches out to you after hours, when the day is
done and quite possibly last call has been shouted.
Although he coos for you sweetly on the other end of
the phone, perhaps begging for your hot body, just
know that you might be on a long list of lovelies, any
of one of whom can satisfy his sexual cravings for
the evening.
6. Tangoless texts
The sex-only guy is remorseless when it comes to
leaving your texts unresponded to for hours - even
days - and sometimes doesn't respond at all... unless
of course you are reaching out to setup a boudoir
appointment. And in that case if his RSVP his
positive, his reply back is immediate. Same goes for
phone calls, emails, Facebook messages, tweets or
any other form of communication.
7. Sexy speak
You two speak one language: Sex. And that's it. If
you think hard about it, you may know everything
about how he likes "it" but you have no clue where
his parents live, what he wanted to be when he grew
up, the food that makes him gag, if he has a middle
name. There's lots of moaning and groaning but no
chatter about work, family, friends, problems,
triumphs, etc. Sam, 31, of New York says, "A woman
who presents herself as a sexual showpiece will be
treated that way. Come to the table at the very
beginning with more than just the ability to blow me
away in the bedroom. Blow away my mind too and
that way I'll consider you relationship worthy. You
don't have to play like a virgin, you just need to offer
more than T&A."
8. He said so
He told you straight up that he doesn't want a
girlfriend, doesn't have time for a girlfriend, can't
deal with a girlfriend... and just wants to have casual
fun. It is up to you if you want to listen... but
remember, most guys don't want to deliver news that
women don't want to hear unless they really mean it.
Justin, 24 from Oakland says, "Know who you are
and be in charge of what you want from the
beginning. If you leave it up to me, then I'm probably
going to go for what is easiest... and that's never a
relationship."
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