she will be approached by the kind of man who
approaches attractive women. This kind of man
views hunting, seducing and conquering women as
sport.
The desire of a man for a woman is not directed at
her because she is a human being, but because
she is a woman. That she is a human being is of
no concern to him.
Immanuel Kant
2) To a hunter, a woman's body is a commodity; he
wins the game by getting her into bed. To a nice guy,
a woman's body is a sacred treasure; he wins her
heart by honoring who she is as a person.
If I became a philosopher, if I have so keenly
sought this fame for which I'm still waiting, it's
all been to seduce women basically.
Jean-Paul Sartre
3) Hunters view women as nothing more than prey.
By definition, nice guys are missing the "seducer"
gene; even if they knew how to "play the game," their
conscience would never allow them to sweet-talk and
manipulate a woman for their own selfish interests.
I think men talk to women so they can sleep with
them and women sleep with men so they can talk
to them.
Jay McInerney
4) Seducers are more likely to suffer from the disorder
known as IAAMATT (It's All About Me All The
Time). Nice guys are more likely to be empathetic,
nurturing and other-centered.
When I eventually met Mr. Right I had no idea
that his first name was Always.
Rita Rudner
5) A woman turns to makeup and fashion to boost
her self-esteem and make herself more desirable to
men. Yet ironically, the more beautiful she makes
herself, the better her chances of attracting the
wrong type of guy.
It is better to be looked over than to be overlooked.
Mae West
6) The more attractive the woman, the less likely she
will be approached by the kind of man who is good in
relationships. Conversely, the less attractive the
man, the less likely he will approach a woman who
is far more attractive than he is. That said, are there
nice guys who are attractive enough and/or
courageous enough to ask out a beautiful woman?
Certainly. But they are a rare breed.
It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the lover.
Marge Piercy
7) The kind of man who values emotional intimacy
often looks at a beautiful woman and thinks, "She's
out of my league." That is the overwhelming reason
why so many women are wondering why nobody (or
at least nobody worth going out with) ever asks them
out. Essentially, seducers view a woman's beauty as
an invitation; nice guys view it as a deterrent.
If it weren't for pickpockets I'd have no sex life at
all.
Rodney Dangerfield
8) When a beautiful woman gets fed up that only
hunters are approaching her and decides to turn the
tables by approaching a nice guy, she may be turned
off by the reception she gets. In her mind, she's just
striking up a normal conversation. It doesn't occur to
her that she's catching him off guard, and that even
though he's trying to listen to her, her words aren't
registering because his head is spinning from the
fact that a beautiful woman is unexpectedly talking to
him. The experience can be so foreign and
disorienting that he comes across as a stammering
fool. Patience here can pay off, for nice guys often
have good relationship potential once the initial
shock wears off.
Can you imagine a world without men? No crime
and lots of happy fat women.
Nicole Hollander
9) Since beautiful women are only approached by
hunters, they understandably think that most, if not
all, men treat women the way that hunters do.
Meanwhile, the nice guys sit in the back of the room
and admire her from afar. Of course, identifying the
nice guys isn't that simple; a man may be quiet and
reserved, but just because he doesn't act like a
seducer doesn't mean he doesn't aspire to be one. The
wolf in sheep's clothing is just one more obstacle on
the path to finding Mr. Right.
O Woman, you are not merely the handiwork of
God, but also of men; these are ever endowing you
with beauty from their own hearts . . . You are
one-half woman and one-half dream.
Rabindranath Tagore
10) When a beautiful woman repeatedly experiences
the same pattern with one hunter after another, she
understandably expects that pattern to continue.
Frustrated, she may close herself off emotionally to
all men, eliminating any chance a nice guy may have
of connecting with her in a meaningful way. In this
way, her fear of never finding the right guy can
become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
We act in such a way that people finally comply
and act in the way we feared they would act. You
fear a person will leave you, and because of that
fear, you act in such a way that finally causes the
person to actually leave.
Bill Harris
11) If a woman wants to be swept off her feet by a
man who would also make a good lifetime partner,
she is apt to be disappointed. The kind of charmers
who are sweep-her-off-her-feeters are often the polar
opposite of the kind of men who are good in
relationships.
When I meet a guy, the first question I ask myself
is: Is this the man I want my children to spend
their weekends with?
Rita Rudner
12) A nice guy is primarily relationship-oriented; he
may first be attracted to a woman's external beauty,
but it is her internal beauty he values most highly. A
hunter is exclusively achievement-oriented; he does
not value what a woman thinks, says or feels; all that
matters is that she has a woman's body and he wants
to get his hands on it.
Pamela Anderson Lee released a statement
confirming that she has had her breast implants
removed. Doctors say that Pamela is doing fine
and that her old implants are now dating Charlie
Sheen.
Conan O'Brien
13) Beautiful women often confine nice guys to the
Friend Zone. A nice guy's worst nightmare is
hearing those nine soul-crushing words, "But I think
of you as just a friend." Many happy couples have
built relationships on the bedrock of solid friendship,
so perhaps it may be wise to rethink what makes
good partner material and be open to finding it from
unexpected sources. Which brings up the question:
Can men and women truly be friends? Yes, but only if
neither of them has any romantic interest in the
other. If even one of them is harboring hopes of
romance, the friendship will reach critical mass
sooner rather than later, at which point the
friendship must either dissolve or transition into a
relationship.
The difference between men and women is that, if
given the choice between saving the life of an
infant or catching a fly ball, a woman will
automatically choose to save the infant, without
even considering if there's a man on base.
Dave Barry
14) If and when a hunter decides to "retire" from
hunting and get married, he chooses a woman he
can possess for her beauty, not one he can build an
emotionally intimate partnership with. What so
many admiring men and envious women fail to see is
that, throughout a woman's entire life, her beauty
can be as much a curse as it is a blessing.
Taught from infancy that beauty is woman's
sceptre, the mind shapes itself to the body, and
roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn
its prison.
Mary Wollstonecraft
15) Women who are less attractive to the type of men
who only pursue attractive women are more likely to
have higher-quality interactions with men. Why?
Nice guys are often more comfortable asking out and
authentically communicating with women who they
feel are more likely to agree to go out with them.
Plain women know more about men than
beautiful ones do.
Katherine Hepburn
The fifteen reasons above are daunting enough but
they're based on beauty alone. What if the beautiful
woman in question is also brilliant and a successful
high achiever? Yep, timid nice guys would view her
as even more intimidating and unapproachable. Ah,
but in Mr. Right's eyes, those qualities would make
her even more perfectly beautiful. Paging Mr.
Right . . . Paging Mr. Right . . .
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