beau. Common sense? Yes. Commonly practiced?
No.
The beginning of a relationship can be a tricky
course to navigate. Guys (like me) aren't so good at
guessing what women think or want, and our
stupidity can lead to otherwise easily avoidable
arguments. Setting some basic rules with your new
flame may help you get past the small stuff and start
enjoying your lives together.
Here are ten guidelines to smooth the road
with your new beau.
1. P.D.A. regulation. People have different comfort
levels when it comes to couples behavior in public.
2. One day a week. Decide on one day every week you
can spend together, no one else invited. Everyone is
busy; designating together-time is healthy for any
relationship.
3. No suffocation. Being together is great—acting
like conjoined twins is not. Respect each other's
space and don't take it so seriously if he asks for
some time to himself.
4. Don't talk about the future until it's time to talk
about the future. Nothing freaks a guy out like the
prospect of kids before he's actually ready to have
them. Don't think he doesn't want to be with you if
he shies away from the topic. He just enjoys the way
things are and isn't quite ready to add a mini-me to
the mix. Getting Your Guy To Talk About The Future
5. Forge friendships with your partner's pals… Not
that you have to be one of the bros, but it's nice for
him, and you, if feel comfortable around his buddies.
6. …But don't forget your own. Don't drop the friends
who were with you before he showed up. Ditching
the gals will lead to feelings of resentment and
neglect, and if your relationship comes to an end,
you'll want that circle of support.
7. Don't hide things. You don't need to tell him about
the time you hooked up with your father's golf buddy,
but it's a good idea to tell him you're still friends with
your ex before he runs into the two of you on the
street.
8. Loosen up. Don't start a fight because he glanced
at the attractive girl that just walked by. Likewise, he
shouldn't get worked up just because you said Jake
Gyllenhaal is hot. It's not like either of you is trying
to sleep with them (unless you are, in which case you
should reevaluate your role in this twosome). His
Wandering Eye. What Does It Mean?
9. Don't kiss and tell. This is a relationship, not an
elongated one-night stand. keep relationship secrets
inside of the relationship!
10. No assumptions or guessing games. Don't force
him to guess what you really mean by, "It's OK if we
don't go out on my birthday." Being upfront with your
feelings will prevent many conflicts
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