automatically think that women want a handsome,
tall, rich man with six-pack abs.
These men will also believe that since they don't have
the genes of a male model, they will never be able to
attract or keep a beautiful woman unless they
somehow win the lottery or add 5 inches to their
penis. However the reality of what women really
want in a man, no matter what he looks like, will
probably surprise you.
"Why is She With Him?"
Have you ever been walking through a shopping mall
and seen an ugly, short or fat guy with a beautiful
woman and thought, "What is she doing with him?"
and wondered what special trait he might have that
attracted the woman in the first place and also
managed to keep her interested?
Most guys automatically assume that for a beautiful
woman to want to be with a guy who isn't "tall and
handsome" or who doesn't have "male model" looks,
it must be because he is rich, paying off all her bills
of had a penis the size of a baby arm. Yet, in almost
all cases, they'd be wrong in their assumptions.
Why? The reason why you will often see beautiful
women with an average-looking (or even below-
average looking) boyfriend/husband is that women
choose men for reasons OTHER THAN looks.
Really, it's true.
If you can't accept that fact of life, then you're not
ready to learn the truth about attraction and get on
with being successful with women. Instead, you may
be at a stage in life where you're not ready to have sex
or a relationship with beautiful women. To you, it
feels safer to hide from beautiful women and believe
that it's all about looks, money, height, race or some
other excuse that you use. You are afraid that if you
do get a beautiful woman into a relationship, you
might end up ruining it (e.g. by becoming clingy) and
that would make you feel even worse if she dumped
you for it.
If you're not willing to believe that you don't need to
be tall, handsome, rich or "well hung" to attract and
keep a beautiful women, then you're not ready to be
successful with women at all.
So, what is the ugly guy's secret to success with
women? The short answer is confidence, but it's a bit
more complicated than that. When you see a
beautiful woman with an "ugly" or average looking
guy, he most-likely got her by believing in himself
and allowing his true personality to attract her and
maintain her interest. If they remain together in a
relationship for a lifetime or for a very long time, it
will usually be because he maintained belief in his
attractiveness and value to her.
In most cases, guys like this will also have a strong
life purpose and will not base their life on the
woman. He won't hide from his true potential as a
man behind her and the relationship and will
instead rise through the levels of life to reach his true
potential as a man. A guy like this will love his
woman deeply and will have a great relationship
with her, but his purpose in life will be his #1 focus.
Many guys are surprised to realize that women
actually WANT it that way; they want to be with a
man who goes after his true potential in life and
doesn't hide from his dreams. Women want a man
that they can look up to, respect and remain attracted
to.
A real man (it doesn't matter if he is ugly, average or
good looking) is able to keep his woman (beautiful or
not) in a happy relationship by maintaining his self-
belief and by rising through the levels of life to reach
for his true potential as a man. He ensures that he
gives plenty of love, attention and affection to his
woman, but both he and she know that he is a man
with or without her. If they broke up, he would be
just as strong and would be able to attract another
quality woman immediately. His life wouldn't end if
she wasn't in it, but if the love is real, he will do
everything he can to keep the relationship together
and work through any tough times they experience
together.
An Ugly Guy Can't Pick Up Every Woman
I'm definitely not saying that any "ugly" guy can pick
up any beautiful woman. There are many women
who don't want to be with a guy who doesn't have
blonde hair, isn't more than 6ft in height or doesn't
drive a BMW. However, for every one of those picky
women there is another beautiful woman who just
wants a good man who is confident, masculine (in
how he thinks, behaves and takes action in life and
around her) and is able to make her feel like a real
woman.
To find himself a beautiful woman, an "ugly" guy
needs to have the mindset that he won't be able to
attract every woman, but he will be able to attract
many of the women he meets. As it turns out, that is
the mindset that every guy needs to have to be
successful with women. If you go through life
worrying that you might get rejected by some women,
then you're going about dating in the wrong way.
The fact is that no matter how "good looking" you
are, you are not going to be compatible with every
woman you meet. To be successful at finding the
perfect girl, you have to be prepared to meet many
women and not worry if it doesn't work out with
some of them.
Millions of Confused Men Who Think They
Need to Look Young and Beautiful Like a
Woman
If you watch too many TV advertisements or look at
enough magazine ads, you might start to believe that
women want us men to look as "pretty" as they do.
The crazy advertisements for unnecessary "men's
beauty" products are part of the reason why the
"Metrosexual" trend began. All of sudden, confused
men began waxing their chest, getting pedicures,
facials, plucking their eyebrows and so on. They
began buying loads of expensive shoes, clothes and
colognes in the hope that they would look good
enough for women. Yet, all along, ugly and average
looking guys who understand how attraction
between men and women really works, just got on
with having sex and enjoying relationships with
beautiful women.
Male peacocks have to look colorful and pretty to
attract a female peacock. Male humans do not have
to look pretty (or handsome) to attract a female
human.
Most men don't have male role models in their life
who are actively teaching them the truth about
women, attraction and how to be a man, so they
often fall victim to believing the idiotic
advertisements on TV. For example: The "Nivea For
Men" ads that tell a man he needs to look "young"
and "fresh" so that women will like him, or that if he
wears the right deodorant he will suddenly become
attractive to women.
Unfortunately, most guys just don't understand how
women tick and they go through life hoping to get
lucky or hoping that women suddenly start feeling
attracted to confused nice guys who have good
intentions, but don't have the slightest clue about
what women really want. They don't realize that in
the human mating dance, it is the women who need
to dress up and look pretty for us men, while we men
need to display confidence and be strong for women.
What most modern men don't understand is that
most women don't care about the "gift wrapping" a
man comes in; they just a real man, balls to bones.
For a woman, the greatest gift a man can give her is
his ability to make her feel like a real woman and be
the sort of man that she can fall more deeply in love
with over time. Real men know that it isn't not their
looks that will attract and keep a woman, but it is
their mental and emotional strength (i.e. confidence,
lack of insecurity, alpha male thinking, etc.). A guy
might be ugly, but if he has the sort of qualities that
women REALLY look for in a man, she will fall in
love with who he is, not what he looks like.
"But, I've Seen Women Looking at Handsome
Men and Getting Excited About it..."
It is human nature to look at "pretty things" and
admire them. However, if a handsome guy
approaches a woman and is nervous around her,
tries to impress her with a stupid opening line, bores
her because he can't carry on a stimulating
conversation or doesn't display the strong
personality traits that a woman wants in a man, it
won't matter what he looks like. She will instantly
forget about his good looks and rapidly begin losing
interest. To help highlight this point, here are just
some of the 1,000s of messages that I have received
over the years from "good looking guys" who can't
even get themselves a girlfriend.
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